LITTLE TALKS | 3 Decades, 30 Years, 30 Lessons

Today, I turn 30.

Typing that sentence is unreal, mostly empowering and somewhat making it hard to breathe. Today, I turn 30. Wow!

What. A. Day.

Something to celebrate, to raise a glass to and certainly a time to reflect on what I’ve learned. So what has the last 30 years taught me? How about these little nuggets of… do I dare say wisdom? Am I old enough now to be considered wise or is that after my next 30 years? I’ll just call them this: The 30 mantras I’m trying to live by going into the next decade.

Keep making those 5 year plans. Since you made it, you can change it. And I hope you do change it. Often. Always keep dreaming about the future and what it could hold for you.

Being healthy isn’t a gimmick. Working out and eating healthy is not just nonsense people want you to believe. It’s true and really does make you feel better. You owe it to your body and yourself as you go into the next years of your life. Don’t limit yourself and moderation is key.

Friends grow, they move away and maybe even change. Some friendships are worth fighting the distance for, so make an effort to connect with them every few months to see how they’re doing and remind them you care. You can still love them from afar. And if you loose touch it doesn’t have to tarnish the memories you made with them. Cherish those memories, lovely.

Sometimes a fresh start is exactly what you need. Surrounding yourself with totally new places and faces can be the change you need. Maybe what you’re going through is a sign to shake it up, shake it off and try something completely new.

Travel, travel, travel as much as you possibly can. It enriches the soul like nothing else can. It truly is the one thing you spend money on in life that makes you richer. So spread those wings!


Sometimes love isn’t a fairytale. It can be hard and ugly at times, but that in itself is beautiful. It’s what is real and that is what makes it worth the work and the mess.

Don’t let anything hold you back. Age doesn’t matter, race doesn’t matter, sex doesn’t matter and what others think really doesn’t matter.

Comparing yourself to others isn’t fair to anyone. So just stop.

Make time for you. Time to yourself engaging in your interests not only makes you happier and less stressed, it makes you more intriguing to others. It gives room for your passions to grow and sparks a light in you. People will see that sparkle in your eye. Not to mention you’ll have so many more interesting things to discuss.

Listen instead of talk. When you are with others don’t think about what to say about yourself, but instead be interested in the other person. Ask questions. Find out about their lives and dreams.

Life isn’t what you think it’s going to be. But most of the time, it’s even better.

Let yourself be creative. Creativity is one of the most beautiful of human traits. Don’t feel like you always have to limit yourself. Don’t conform to the norm, to what people expect or the 9 to 5 if that isn’t you. You are brave for not giving into the expectations.

Make your home your sanctuary. Curate it with a few items that mean something to you or simply make you happy. You spend a great deal of time there, so it should bring you peace and joy.


Meditation and yoga are healing in so many ways. Make the time for it.

Spend as much time as you can with loved ones. Your parents, your pets, your partner and friends. They enrich your life and influence it in many ways. So also choose them wisely. You really are the sum of the people you spend the most time with.

Invest in your wardrobe. It’s always worth it to spend money on the staples that you will use for years to come. And have a few pieces specific to each season so every few months you feel like you get a fresh look. Confidence in what you’re wearing sets your day up for success.


A smaller mess is always easier to clean than a big one. Pick up after yourself because it only takes a moment.

Always be kind. To the people that surround you and the strangers on the street. You never know what others might be going through. And on that note, find ways to give back.

Choose the boutiques over the chains. It’s a unique experience, they have a more personal touch and you’re funding a local business.

Coffee, candles and fresh flowers are always a good idea. Mood is automatically elevated.


Be curious about the things you don’t know. Don’t let what you don’t understand scare you, but excite you. Give it the chance to teach you something about others and about yourself.

Loosing your way doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It’s okay to get lost both physically and mentally. Lost might lead you to exactly where you’re suppose to be. You’ll find your way. So enjoy the journey, take the back roads and keep your eyes and mind open.

Share your passions. If you hold them inside then you are depriving the world of your true beauty.

Life can be really hard sometimes. Even though it’s tough to see in those moments, you’ll get through the bumps in the road. Those are the times you learn who you are and what you’re made of, darling.

Get out in nature. The fresh air in your lungs, the sounds of the wildlife, the majesty of the mountains, the vastness of the ocean. It’s good to realize how small you are in the big scheme of things.

Let go of the social highlight reels. Don’t spend your time looking through what others have chosen to show you about their lives and pit it against all of yours.

Put down the phone. Stop scrolling. Take breaks from social media. Look up. Disconnect.

Believe in something. Hope is never a bad thing.

Forgive and forget. Don’t waste a moment on revenge or negative thoughts. It’s not worth the time and energy.

Love yourself. Every extra pound, every pore, every mistake and every bad hair day.

Image credit: Le Secret d’Audrey via Style Me Pretty


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